This might be a dumb question… but uh… what are the alternatives in the modern US?
How do people meet nowadays? Like there are no 3rd places left, I dont want to pay to be in some overmonitized club or some shit. I am long out of school. Meeting people seems next to impossible nowadays.
This is where I’m at. Everyone has told me dating at work is a really bad idea. I don’t drink so I have no interest in trying to pick up a girl at a bar. And in general I’ve seen so many girls say they don’t like guys approaching them in public.
Like it feels like all that is left is these apps, but girls don’t seem to want to meet on there either. It feels like I’m missing something critical here on how to meet a girl at my age and it’s frustrating me to no end.
How old are you? It’s been years since I dated, but I had a decent amount of success on dating apps. It can take time to curate a good profile. Also, my understanding is that free options are nonexistent or flooded with fake OF profiles, so that might make it more difficult
I’m 27. I’ve been on and off on dating apps for a few years now. Very rarely get matches. Tried all the profile advice. Nothing works. Doesn’t help you also have to filter through a sea of girls trying to pump their Instagram followers or OF subs and don’t actually care about dating. It just feels like these apps have been nothing but a drain on my mental health with basically nothing to show for it.
Yeah, the Instagram and OF stuff wasn’t around when I was using dating apps. That sounds pretty difficult to get through. Seems like Match Group bought all the competition and ruined it from what I’ve heard.
The only way I’ve ever had luck on those apps is just by trying to make my profile funny instead of really lame and repetitive. Like, make one that actually stands out, even if it’s just a big picture of you in a fish costume holding yourself, or something. It can certainly help if you get a sense for what other dude’s profiles look like and intentionally do what will stand out from them, or what will point out the absurdity of them. Then, just wait. That’s it, don’t surf the app really, that’s a pretty guaranteed way to lose hope on everything. If you do scroll, do it sparingly, and sparingly give out swipes, don’t swipe on someone cause they’re hot, swipe on someone because they either seem like someone you wanna go out with or because they’re sending you some other form of signal that actually matters. After you get a match or two, you’re gonna wanna swipe through the pile until you can distinguish the person who swiped on you from the blurry preview they give you, and then you can go from there based on whether or not they seem like a good fit or not, generally I opt towards yes even if they haven’t put much effort in.
I dunno about tinder, but sometimes you can even delete your bumble profile and the app keeps puppeting around your account, and then you can return later on, and swipe through the pile, until you can distinguish them based on their preview. I’ve met like 7-8 girls this way and my profile barely even shows my face and it’s all stupid jokey bullshit. I think my ELO’s probably tanked but I don’t really care that much atp. If you’re really desperate there are ways to flub the sign-up process and make a totally new account, so you can reset your ELO if you’ve tanked it by swiping right a million times and getting nothing back.
Hobbies. If you like hiking find a hiking group. If you like board games find a board game group. If you like painting get in a class… you get the idea.
This might be a dumb question… but uh… what are the alternatives in the modern US?
How do people meet nowadays? Like there are no 3rd places left, I dont want to pay to be in some overmonitized club or some shit. I am long out of school. Meeting people seems next to impossible nowadays.
This is where I’m at. Everyone has told me dating at work is a really bad idea. I don’t drink so I have no interest in trying to pick up a girl at a bar. And in general I’ve seen so many girls say they don’t like guys approaching them in public.
Like it feels like all that is left is these apps, but girls don’t seem to want to meet on there either. It feels like I’m missing something critical here on how to meet a girl at my age and it’s frustrating me to no end.
How old are you? It’s been years since I dated, but I had a decent amount of success on dating apps. It can take time to curate a good profile. Also, my understanding is that free options are nonexistent or flooded with fake OF profiles, so that might make it more difficult
I’m 27. I’ve been on and off on dating apps for a few years now. Very rarely get matches. Tried all the profile advice. Nothing works. Doesn’t help you also have to filter through a sea of girls trying to pump their Instagram followers or OF subs and don’t actually care about dating. It just feels like these apps have been nothing but a drain on my mental health with basically nothing to show for it.
Yeah, the Instagram and OF stuff wasn’t around when I was using dating apps. That sounds pretty difficult to get through. Seems like Match Group bought all the competition and ruined it from what I’ve heard.
The only way I’ve ever had luck on those apps is just by trying to make my profile funny instead of really lame and repetitive. Like, make one that actually stands out, even if it’s just a big picture of you in a fish costume holding yourself, or something. It can certainly help if you get a sense for what other dude’s profiles look like and intentionally do what will stand out from them, or what will point out the absurdity of them. Then, just wait. That’s it, don’t surf the app really, that’s a pretty guaranteed way to lose hope on everything. If you do scroll, do it sparingly, and sparingly give out swipes, don’t swipe on someone cause they’re hot, swipe on someone because they either seem like someone you wanna go out with or because they’re sending you some other form of signal that actually matters. After you get a match or two, you’re gonna wanna swipe through the pile until you can distinguish the person who swiped on you from the blurry preview they give you, and then you can go from there based on whether or not they seem like a good fit or not, generally I opt towards yes even if they haven’t put much effort in.
I dunno about tinder, but sometimes you can even delete your bumble profile and the app keeps puppeting around your account, and then you can return later on, and swipe through the pile, until you can distinguish them based on their preview. I’ve met like 7-8 girls this way and my profile barely even shows my face and it’s all stupid jokey bullshit. I think my ELO’s probably tanked but I don’t really care that much atp. If you’re really desperate there are ways to flub the sign-up process and make a totally new account, so you can reset your ELO if you’ve tanked it by swiping right a million times and getting nothing back.
Yeah dating a coworker is gross.
Hobbies. If you like hiking find a hiking group. If you like board games find a board game group. If you like painting get in a class… you get the idea.
Majority of relationships past college start with coworkers
I met my wife at a dungeon, but that’s not for everyone. Bars also work
Most people meet partners through mutual friends and at work.
Unless you already have shit loads of friends this is not viable. And dating at work has almost gotten impossible with the risk of harassment.
Young people are fucked.